relationships

An Interesting Point of View

Do you have a person in your life that you tend to get into arguments with? Imagine changing your approach to that person by agreeing with them. Arguments lose their energy in the face of agreement. Now, you may not be able to honestly agree with some statement or belief. One approach is to respondContinue reading “An Interesting Point of View”

Requests versus Needs

It becomes quite helpful in all relationships to understand the difference between a Request and a Demand. And it becomes even more important in our relationships. Harmony comes about making Requests of people rather than Demands. We learned earlier, when you make a Demand, you are only going to get resentment or rebellion. My Dad didn’tContinue reading “Requests versus Needs”

Relationships and Needs

A 15-year-old boy robs a liquor store at gunpoint. That’s the boy’s behavior. What’s his need? It can’t be for alcohol, because alcohol is not a universal need. “For the rush?” Maybe. It could be that; you know, excitement. But what I might guess, for a 15-year-old boy, is Acceptance. He wants to be seen as cool by hisContinue reading “Relationships and Needs”

this is a transcript from a workshop on relationships Let’s talk about communication in general and then how communication works in your relationship. When I was in high school, high school geometry, the teacher started the first day talking about how geometry is based on axioms. She said that there are these core axioms inContinue reading “Relationships”